We live in a world of differing viewpoints. That will never change. What can change though, is our attitude and response to other people. We can help other people much more by simply listening to them then by trying to convince them of something. Even if we are right, by simply letting someone get their point of view across, they begin to realize their own flawed thinking.

If we try to argue with them, they begin to see us as a threat and become determined to win. They begin to see the conversation as a battle that must be won rather then a chance to look at their own beliefs. It is our responsibility to listen to others. Many people in the world are lost. They need someone to listen to them so that they can begin to find their way.

Stop trying to win arguments! Very rarely will that help convert people to the truth. Many times it will push people away from the truth permanently. If you are living a good life and sticking to the 15 Fundamentals of The Family Coaching Central Program, then the example of your life will be the best argument of all. You will be able to convince people without saying a word that you have found a better way of life and have uncovered the truth.

We need to be clear about what communication is and what it is NOT. Communication IS expressing your needs, expectations, emotions, etc. clearly and verbally. Don’t expect your spouse, children or other family members to be able to read your mind or your body language.

The other side (and the more important side) of communication is listening. Listening is a practice that is very difficult for most. By listening completely and seeking to understand the person who is speaking you will be showing the speaker that you really care about what they have to say. The fact that you are really listening to them will be evident in your body language and in your facial expressions and they will most likely give you the same courtesy when it’s your turn to speak. If you’re more concerned with your next comment or with your agenda in the conversation that will be evident as well and may not give you a desired result in the conversation.

Following these 2 simple steps in communication will open your family up to each other and will create an atmosphere of mutual respect for all.

When practicing this fundamental it is important to remember all people we may have harmed. Even things that we think were insignificant may have really hurt someone else and therefore ourselves in the process. We must be thorough and honest with ourselves in order to make ourselves free from the past.